Back Talk
Back Talk by Jane Nelsen Mrs. Henderson told her son, Jon, for the third time that evening, “You had better do your homework before it gets too late.” Jon shot back, “If it is so important to you, why don’t you do it!” Mrs. Henderson was shocked. After all, she was only trying to help. […]
Gratitude – A Kids Tool Card Activity
Gratitude – A Kids Tool Card Activity An excerpt from the Positive Discipline Tools for Kids Guidebook (Coming Soon!) by Jane Nelsen, Aisha Pope, Mary Nelsen Tamborski, and Lois Ingber Today is Thanksgiving! A day to express our gratitude for the many blessings in our life. We recently released our new Kids Tool Cards which has a […]
Applying the Positive Discipline Principles
Applying the Positive Discipline Principles Many people have participated in the 52 Positive Discipline Tools in 52 Weeks challenge. All of these Positive Discipline tools are amazing, but it can be overwhelming to try and apply them all at once. Taking the challenge of applying one Positive Discipline Tool each week is a great way to stay focused […]
Encouragement: What does it mean and how is it done?
Encouragement: What does it mean and how is it done? by Dr. Jane Nelsen Rudolf Dreikurs taught, “A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water.” In other words, encouragement is essential. Children may not die without encouragement, but they certainly wither. Since encouragement is so essential, it’s helpful for parents and teachers to know exactly […]
The Anger Wheel of Choice: Anger is Just a Feeling
The Anger Wheel of Choice: Anger is Just a Feeling by Jane Nelsen When I was growing up, I didn’t know that anger is just a feeling. To me anger meant withdrawal of love. My mother didn’t tell me she was angry. She just wouldn’t speak to me for days. However, she did “speak” loud […]
SILENT SIGNALS
SILENT SIGNALS by Dr. Jane Nelsen Try a silent (secret) signal. (Kids love the secret part—especially when they have helped create it.) Creating silent signals can be part of “taking time for training” (another great tool card). The silent signal illustrated on the Positive Discipline Tool Card is to point to your watch when you have agreed (together) […]
Distract and Redirect
Distract and Redirect by Dr. Jane Nelsen A Positive Discipline Parenting Tool Card Children under the age of three do not understand “no” in the way most parents think they do. (And a full understanding of “no” doesn’t occur magically when the child turns three. It is a developmental process.) “No” is an abstract concept […]
Show Faith
Show Faith One of the biggest mistakes some parents and teachers make, when they decide to use Positive Discipline, is becoming too permissive because they don’t want to be punitive. Some mistakenly believe they are being kind when they rescue their children, and protect them from all disappointment. This is not being kind; it is being […]
Closet Listening
Closet Listening Have you ever tried talking with your children only to be frustrated by one word, unenthusiastic, totally bored responses? Many parents become discouraged when they ask their children, “How was your day?” and their children say, “Fine.” Then they ask, “What did you do today?” The response is, “Nothing.” Try Closet Listening Closet […]
Letting Go: Morning Hassles and Responsibility
Letting Go: Morning Hassles and Responsibility by Dr. Jane Nelsen “Jimmy, time to get up! C’mon, Jimmy, get up now! This is the last time I’m going to call you!” Sound familiar? Mornings in Jimmy’s home are much like mornings in other homes around the world—hectic, argumentative, and full of hassles. Jimmy has not learned […]
