New Positive Discipline Tools for Kids
New Positive Discipline Tools for Kids The purpose of the Positive Discipline Tools for Kids program is to help children develop important life skills to encourage themselves and each other. Suggestions for using these cards: 1.) Keep the cards in a special basket for kids to access.
The Wheel of Choice
The Wheel of Choice Focusing on solutions is a primary theme of Positive Discipline, and kids are great at focusing on solutions when they are taught the skills and are allowed to practice them. The wheel of choice provides a fun and exciting way to involve kids in learning and practicing problem-solving skills, especially when […]
Hugs: A Positive Discipline Tool Card
This tool card provides an example of asking for a hug when a child is having a temper tantrum, but that is certainly not the only time a hug can be an appropriate intervention when you understand the principle of hugs. Later, I’ll share where the example on the card came from; but first I […]
Allowances Can Teach the Life Skill of Money Management
Allowances Can Teach the Life Skill of Money Management by Dr. Jane Nelsen The Johnson family was about to complete their weekly grocery shopping when five-year-old Jimmy started coaxing for a toy car. Mom asked politely, “Have you saved enough money from your allowance to buy it?” Jimmy looked sad and said, “No.” Mom suggested, […]
THE THREE Rs OF RECOVERY
THE THREE Rs OF RECOVERY A Positive Discipline Tool Card It is much easier to take responsibility for a mistake when it is seen as a learning opportunity rather than something to be ashamed of. If we see mistakes as bad we tend to feel inadequate and discouraged and may become defensive, evasive, judgmental, or […]
MISTAKES ARE WONDERFUL OPPORTUNITIES TO LEARN
MISTAKES ARE WONDERFUL OPPORTUNITIES TO LEARN by Jane Nelsen Close your eyes and remember the messages you received from parents and teachers about mistakes when you were a child. When you made a mistake, did you receive the message that you were stupid, inadequate, bad, a disappointment, a klutz? When hearing these messages, what did you decide […]
Logical Consequences
Logical Consequences by Jane Nelsen Logical consequences are different from Natural Consequences in that they require the intervention of an adult—or other children in a family meeting or a class meeting. It is important to decide what kind of consequence would create a helpful learning experience that might encourage children to choose responsible cooperation. For example, Linda […]
Problem Solving
Problem Solving by Jane Nelsen We can use daily challenges as opportunities to practice problem solving WITH our children. Children are great problem solvers when we give them the opportunity to brainstorm and come up with solutions. What a great life skill—to teach kids to focus on solutions when there is a problem. One summer we went […]
Control Your Behavior
Control Your Behavior by Dr. Jane Nelsen The Positive Discipline Tool Card of “Control Your Behavior” is sometimes easier said than done. Have you ever lost control of your behavior with your children? Fortunately we can use the parenting tool of Recovery from Mistakes when we lose control of our behavior. But it is always better if we can […]
Sibling Fights: Putting Kids in the Same Boat
Sibling Fights: Putting Kids in the Same Boat by Jane Nelsen If you can’t stand to stay out of your children’s fights, and decide to become involved, the most effective way is to put your children in the same boat. Do not take sides or try to decide who is at fault. Chances are you […]
