Spanking Your Child
Spanking Your Child Question: I am doing a paper for a class I am in. I was wondering what you think about spanking your child. Do you think it is wrong? If so please specify. Thank you. Answer: I absolutely do not believe in spanking. I believe in using methods that are effective long-term, not […]
Misbehaving when we have company over
Misbehaving when we have company over Dear Jane… Once again I write to you seeking advice. My husband and I are trudging through your “positive disciplne” book. We’ve recently set up charts and are really trying hard to get the children involved in the problem solving….here’s another quest for you…recently we moved to a new […]
Rebellion for being Punished
Rebellion for being Punished Question: I am having problems with my 2nd grade son. Recently, he was suspended from riding the bus after hitting another child back after this kid hit him. My son was suspended for 7 days, while the other child received no discipline at all.For the last week of my son’s suspension […]
Step Parenting Blues
Step Parenting Blues Question: Dear Jane: I have some questions on how to deal with my partner’s five-year-old son and am hoping you will be able to provide me with some insight. We have been living together for 5 1/2 months and I am having huge difficulty adjusting to his son, being around half-time (he […]
Mean, Disobedient Four-Year-Old
Mean, Disobedient Four-Year-Old Question: My daughter is 4.5 and I’m at my wits end. She is such a beautiful child when she wants to be. I just don’t know what to do anymore. She’s mean to other children. She has no fear of any authority. She is very mouthy to other kids, her preschool teacher, […]
Helping a 2 ½ year old like preschool
Helping a 2 ½ year old like preschool Question: Hi, I know you have a few answers about this on your web site, but my problem is a little different. My son doesn’t mind going to preschool, but after about half an hour he looks for his parents (usually my husband drops him off and […]
Forgetfulness: Irresponsible or Normal
Forgetfulness: Irresponsible or Normal Question: My question is how responsible can I legitimately expect my 10 yr old stepson to be. I believe he “forgets” to do chores right or brush his teeth etc. because he gets special undivided attention when he is getting in trouble even though it is negative attention. He is a […]
Money as a Means of Discipline
Money as a Means of Discipline Question: How do you feel about using money as a means of disciplining children? My ex-wife has developed a system of “Stars and De-merits” with our children—6 and 8 yrs old. They are awarded for good behavior with stars or dollars, and when misbehaving they receive demerits and money […]
Disrespectful Children
Disrespectful Children Question: How should I handle a 4.5 year old who talks back to me? Answer: I decided to answer your question by sending you another excerpt from “Positive Discipline A-Z” on disrespect. DISRESPECT My child is often disrespectful to me. She talks back in a sassy manner, yells at me, and sometimes calls me […]
Dealing With a Strong-Willed Child
Dealing With a Strong-Willed Child Question: I like your ideas. I use them at home most of the time. Can you give me some ideas for a very stubborn child. She is so intense in playing and singing and dancing that I can hardly get her to stop long enough to dress or eat or […]
