My Teenager Doesn’t Keep His Agreements
My Teenager Doesn’t Keep His Agreements “My Teenager Doesn’t Keep His Agreements!” If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard that line. Does anyone have a teenager who does keep all his or her agreements? Did you keep all your agreements when you were a teenager? Now that we’ve established that this is a typical […]
When Should Children be Responsible?
When Should Children be Responsible? Question: I just found this sight and I already feel so relieved that you may be able to help. I already read e-mail about 10yr old “forgetful” girl. My question is how responsible can I legitimately expect my 10 yr old step-son to be. I believe he “forgets” to do […]
Different Parenting Styles
Different Parenting Styles Question: Do you have any information that addresses the issue of differing parent styles in the home. ie one parent wants to use the positive parent style but the other wants to use rewards and punishments to control? What can the positive discipline parent do to when dealing with the issues that […]
2 ½ year-old Fears
2 ½ year-old Fears Question: I recently read your book, Positive Discipline: The First Three Years and I cannot tell you how much better I understand my 2 1/2 year old son! I was hoping you could direct me toward some reading material, or even offer a suggestion though. He is a very bright boy, happy at […]
Messy Rooms
Messy Rooms A parent asked for help regarding the power struggle to get her children to clean up their rooms. I shared the following excerpt from Positive Discipline A-Z by Jane Nelsen, Lynn Lott, and H. Stephen Glenn. “My children refuse to clean their rooms. They have dirty clothes under the bed, dirty dishes and spoiled food on their […]
Mistakes are Opportunities to Learn
Mistakes are Opportunities to Learn Question:It is only today that I’ve discovered your website, a day after my husband and I have already told our 11 year old son that as a consequence to two pretty severe behavioral issues, he was not going to be able to participate in an upcoming motorcycle race, or to […]
Child Alienating Friends
Child Alienating Friends Question: Hi Jane, My daughter will soon be 8. We have a great relationship and are very close. She is having difficulty at school. Sometimes with her friends she is like a different person to how she is at home, she becomes very bossy and sometimes possessive of her best friends. Unfortunately […]
Defiance: Where does it come from?
Defiance: Where does it come from? Question: Dear Jane: My daughter is 7 3/4. This morning, she left the house and walked to school without saying a word. What is an appropriate disciplinary action for this? I feel that the issues are: 1) Anxiety: in me & her Kindergarten Brother – every morning we walk […]
Demanding Child
Demanding Child Question: I am a mother of 5 children aged 8, 7, 5, 4 and 8 months old. There are many things I could ask about but I have gained so much just through reading as much as I can through your website. As well as this, we plan to order at least one […]
Morning Hassles and Power Struggles
Morning Hassles and Power Struggles Question: Hi Jane, My 4-year old recently started kindergarten and has to wear a school uniform. I tried to prepare her as much as I could over the summer about having to wear it for school. Thankfully we haven’t encountered any major issues in the morning when she has to […]
