VALIDATE FEELINGS – A Positive Discipline Tool Card
VALIDATE FEELINGS – A Positive Discipline Tool Card Billy is sad because his friend doesn’t want to play with him. Susan is angry because she doesn’t want to pick up her toys. Tammie hates her baby brother and wants to hit him. Billy’s Mom tries to comfort him by saying, “Don’t feel sad, Billy. You […]
SCHEDULE SPECIAL TIME FOR CONNECTION\
SCHEDULE SPECIAL TIME FOR CONNECTION An excerpt from the book Positive Discipline by Dr. Jane Nelsen One of the most encouraging things parents can do for their children is to spend regularly scheduled special time with them. You may already spend lots of time with your children. However there is a difference between have to time, casual time, […]
Understand the Brain Using the Palm of Your Hand
Understand the Brain Using the Palm of Your Hand In their book, Parenting From the Inside Out (Tarcher/Penguin, 2004) Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell present an elegant and refreshingly (to us non-brain-scientists) understandable explanation of brain processes. In our Positive Discipline classes with both parents and teachers of children, this model remains one of the most useful and remembered tools. It’s called “Brain […]
Act Without Words – A Positive Discipline Tool Card
Act Without Words – A Positive Discipline Tool Card Diane promised she would never be like her friend, Sara, who was always yelling (often screaming) at her kids, “Don’t do that! Do this! I’m sick and tired or telling you!” On and on! It was difficult for Diane to be around Sara, and she felt […]
New Positive Discipline Tools for Kids
New Positive Discipline Tools for Kids The purpose of the Positive Discipline Tools for Kids program is to help children develop important life skills to encourage themselves and each other. Suggestions for using these cards: 1.) Keep the cards in a special basket for kids to access.
The Wheel of Choice
The Wheel of Choice Focusing on solutions is a primary theme of Positive Discipline, and kids are great at focusing on solutions when they are taught the skills and are allowed to practice them. The wheel of choice provides a fun and exciting way to involve kids in learning and practicing problem-solving skills, especially when […]
Hugs: A Positive Discipline Tool Card
This tool card provides an example of asking for a hug when a child is having a temper tantrum, but that is certainly not the only time a hug can be an appropriate intervention when you understand the principle of hugs. Later, I’ll share where the example on the card came from; but first I […]
Allowances Can Teach the Life Skill of Money Management
Allowances Can Teach the Life Skill of Money Management by Dr. Jane Nelsen The Johnson family was about to complete their weekly grocery shopping when five-year-old Jimmy started coaxing for a toy car. Mom asked politely, “Have you saved enough money from your allowance to buy it?” Jimmy looked sad and said, “No.” Mom suggested, […]
THE THREE Rs OF RECOVERY
THE THREE Rs OF RECOVERY A Positive Discipline Tool Card It is much easier to take responsibility for a mistake when it is seen as a learning opportunity rather than something to be ashamed of. If we see mistakes as bad we tend to feel inadequate and discouraged and may become defensive, evasive, judgmental, or […]
MISTAKES ARE WONDERFUL OPPORTUNITIES TO LEARN
MISTAKES ARE WONDERFUL OPPORTUNITIES TO LEARN by Jane Nelsen Close your eyes and remember the messages you received from parents and teachers about mistakes when you were a child. When you made a mistake, did you receive the message that you were stupid, inadequate, bad, a disappointment, a klutz? When hearing these messages, what did you decide […]
