Pay Attention and Wheel of Choice Adaptation
Pay Attention and Wheel of Choice Adaptation The “Pay Attention” tool card says “Put down whatever you are doing and focus on your child as though he or she is more important than anything else you could do.” But what about those times when there really is something that needs your full attention at that moment. The […]
Bullying on the Bus
Bullying on the Bus Last week I was interviewed by a Los Angeles Times reporter regarding the YouTube video of the bullying of a 68-year-old grandma and bus monitor by four middle school boys. I recommended that the boys should not be punished in traditional ways (bullying by adults) and have since been bullied by many readers […]
Parenting – The Positive Approach
Parenting – The Positive Approach If you are a teacher, have you been teaching long enough to remember when children sat in neat rows and obediently did what they were told? If you are a parent, do you remember when children wouldn’t dare talk back to their parents? If you don’t, perhaps your grandparents do. […]
Special Time With Your Teenager
Special Time With Your Teenager When your child becomes a teenager, it is not uncommon for them to become defiant. They will often contradict you and even try to sabotage your best efforts to create a harmonious family life. This can be very discouraging to parents and usually results in constant power struggles.
Positive Time Out
Positive Time Out by Dr. Jane Nelsen In many of our books we talk about “Positive Time Out.” There are several points that need to be made regarding time out for children who have not yet reached the age of reason: 1.) Any kind of time out should not be used with children under 3 1/2 […]
Parenting Preschoolers
Parenting Preschoolers An excerpt from the book, Positive Discipline for Preschoolers. Understanding your preschooler’s development and filling your toolbox with Positive Discipline parenting tools will go a long way toward resolving conflicts with your young child. It also helps to know that temperament, birth order, brain development, physical and intellectual abilities, and skill acquisition underlie much […]
Kindness and Firmness at the Same Time
Kindness and Firmness at the Same Time by Dr. Jane Nelsen Rudolf Dreikurs taught the importance of being both kind and firm in our relations with children. Kindness is important in order to show respect for the child. Firmness is important in order to show respect for ourselves and for the needs of the situation. […]
Help! My Child is Stealing!
Help! My Child is Stealing! Question: First, let me say that your book Positive Discipline has been immensely helpful. I read it when my son was five (he’s ten now) and I buy a copy for all the new parents I know ( along with the “Read-Aloud Handbook” by Jim Trelease). So thank for writing the book! […]
When Parents Lose It
When Parents Lose It Have you ever “lost it” with you kids? My guess is that most people will answer, “Yes,” to this question. The next question is, “Then what did you do?”. Did you feel guilty and beat up on yourself. Or did you rejoice because you just provided your children with a model […]
How Do You Motivate a Teen?
How Do You Motivate a Teen? There are many reasons why teens lack motivation to do what parents want them to do. (You’ll notice they don’t lack motivation to do what they want to do — talk on the phone, skateboard, shop, party, etc.) For now, I’ll mention just a few:
