When Parents (of Different Families) Don’t Agree

Question:

My sixteen year old son, Sean, is dating a fifteen year old girl, Rachel. She was caught sneaking out of her house in the middle of the night to go to a party with my son and she was caught drunk one night. Her mother’s response to this was to severely limit the amount of time she could see Sean, making it only a few hours twice a week. They had been used to seeing each other every day for several hours for the past year. This strict mandate has been met with them having to sneak around more to try to see each other and now no one is cooperating. After Rachel’s mother caught her sneaking around trying to see Sean, her mother then sent out letters from her lawyer saying that my son and I are to have no contact with Rachel and we will be prosecuted for various infractions from trespassing to contributing to the delinquency of a minor if we even call. She also put her daughter in the juvenile detention center and has told her that she can only come home if she does not try to see Sean again. They have been friends for over five years and they are not just going to stop seeing each other. I’m afraid my son is going to get into trouble because her daughter keeps begging him to come over and they can’t just cut off the relationship and he doesn’t know what to do.