Using Positive Discipline with Two Boys

Question:

I discovered your books about a year ago. I have been trying to implement the positive discipline methods. I love your belief that mistakes are opportunities to learn.

I have two boys, about 20 months apart. Scott was three in August and Mark will be 19 months at the end of December. My problem concerns trying to utilize positive discipline techniques with Scott when Mark cannot appreciate it. For example, picking up toys: If Scott brought out toys that are Mark’s toys and I state that if they are not picked up by a certain previously determined time, they will be packed away for 3 days, he does not care. They are not his toys. Also, when trying to have Scott bring his plate, cup etc to the kitchen counter, I must intervene because Mark grabs them and sends food flying before Scott decides to do it. In other words, I am having a hard time waiting for Scott to choose a behavior because Mark intervenes somehow.