Small Steps

As parents, we can of course do everything better and quicker than our children. But how does this help your child? You have to decide if perfection and expediency are more important than encouraging your child to develop a deep belief in his or her capability.

Parents may not realize that doing too much for children (usually in the name of love) is discouraging. A child may adopt the belief “I’m not capable” when adults insist on doing things for him that he could do himself. Another possible belief is “Being loved means people do things for me.”