Question 081

Dear Jane Nelsen

I am concerned with my daughter’s kindergarten teacher saying, “I hear a tattle-teller” when the children bring their problems to her. I feel that this statement negatively labels appropriate behavior for five-year-old children. I would prefer she first listen to the problem, consider offering the children appropriate suggestions, and encourage them to work out the problem themselves if possible.

I discussed my concerns with the school principal. She admits to hearing this statement, but totally disagrees that the children may interpret this statement negatively. If a child in this class was abused–perhaps sexually–I believe they would not bring this issue to the attention of their teacher.