Mouthy Preteen

Question:

Do you know what website I could go to or give me some information on how to control my daughter (mouth).She is very verbal when she gets upset. I am divorced, but have been remarried for 5 years, and she is Basically very rude to step father who is more than generous to her, and she still treats him nasty, and in public she is nasty when she gets embarrassed or if things don’t go her way. Is it the age, or is the divorce, do I need to get her to counseling, or is this something I can try to fix at home.

Answer:

All of your questions are good ones, so I’m going to take them one by one. First, is it the age?Well, research and experience tell us that adolescence begins much sooner these days than it used to. Most parents report that pre-teens (ages 10-12) are often mouthy, easily embarrassed by parents, and moody. It’s also true that many adolescents these days feel a sense of entitlement: they genuinely don’t “get” that adults want to be treated with respect, or that young people don’t actually have the same rights and privileges as their parents and teachers.Getting into your daughter’s world to understand her physical and emotional development will give you important clues about her behavior.