The Anger Wheel of Choice: Anger is Just a Feeling
The Anger Wheel of Choice: Anger is Just a Feeling by Jane Nelsen When I was growing up, I didn’t know that anger is just a feeling. To me anger meant withdrawal of love. My mother didn’t tell me she was angry. She just wouldn’t speak to me for days. However, she did “speak” loud […]
SILENT SIGNALS
SILENT SIGNALS by Dr. Jane Nelsen Try a silent (secret) signal. (Kids love the secret part—especially when they have helped create it.) Creating silent signals can be part of “taking time for training” (another great tool card). The silent signal illustrated on the Positive Discipline Tool Card is to point to your watch when you have agreed (together) […]
Distract and Redirect
Distract and Redirect by Dr. Jane Nelsen A Positive Discipline Parenting Tool Card Children under the age of three do not understand “no” in the way most parents think they do. (And a full understanding of “no” doesn’t occur magically when the child turns three. It is a developmental process.) “No” is an abstract concept […]
Show Faith
Show Faith One of the biggest mistakes some parents and teachers make, when they decide to use Positive Discipline, is becoming too permissive because they don’t want to be punitive. Some mistakenly believe they are being kind when they rescue their children, and protect them from all disappointment. This is not being kind; it is being […]
Closet Listening
Closet Listening Have you ever tried talking with your children only to be frustrated by one word, unenthusiastic, totally bored responses? Many parents become discouraged when they ask their children, “How was your day?” and their children say, “Fine.” Then they ask, “What did you do today?” The response is, “Nothing.” Try Closet Listening Closet […]
Limit Screen Time
Limit Screen Time by Dr. Jane Nelsen There was once a segment on Oprah in which families where challenged to give up electronics for a week, including TV. It was interesting to watch how difficult it was for parents, as well as their children, to give up all of their screens. One scene was particularly difficult to […]
Sense of Humor
Sense of Humor by Dr. Jane Nelsen No one ever said parenting had to be boring or unpleasant. Laughter is often the best way to approach a situation. Try saying, “Here comes the tickle monster to get children who don’t pick up their toys.” Learn to laugh together and to create games to get unpleasant […]
Positive Discipline Success Story – “I Need Your Help”
Positive Discipline Success Story – “I Need Your Help” The following is a success story. So, my 2 year old (25.5 months old) has been giving me such a rough time with diaper changes. She has always been wiggly, even as a baby, and we do cloth diapers so it takes that much longer to […]
Positive Discipline Parenting Classes
Positive Discipline Parenting Classes We now have over 10,000 Certified Positive Discipline Facilitators teaching classes in many areas of the United States and in over 80 countries. Still, we have many requests from parents who cannot find a Positive Discipline Class in their area. For these people we offer the following suggestions: 1) Check our […]
Take Time for Training
Take Time for Training I applied a few Take Time for Training strategies today during “room cleaning” day. In the past my procedure was as follows: “Go clean your room” the children would stay in their rooms for hours (why isn’t it clean???) and eventually I, or someone else, would clean it. Today I decided […]
