Follow Through With Children
Follow Through With Children by Jane Nelsen A Positive Discipline Tool Card Julie complained that her four-year-old son, Chad, is very responsive and cooperative with his father about going to bed, but when she puts him to bed and tries to leave, Chad yells for her to come back and wants her to lay down […]
Agreements – A Positive Discipline Tool Card
Agreements – A Positive Discipline Tool Card Why don’t children keep their agreements? Could it be that sometimes parents and teachers say, “This is what we are going to do. Do you agree?” When the question is asked in an authoritarian manner that doesn’t leave room for discussion, children often shrug in agreement, which really […]
Teach Children What to Do
Teach Children What to Do An excerpt from the book Positive Discipline The First Three Years. This tool is also referred to as “Do vs Don’t.” Children under the age of three do not understand “no” in the way most parents think they do. (And, a full understanding of “no” doesn’t occur magically when the child […]
NATURAL CONSEQUENCES
NATURAL CONSEQUENCES by Dr. Jane Nelsen A Positive Discipline Parenting Tool Card A natural consequence is anything that happens naturally, with no adult interference. When you stand in the rain, you get wet. When you don’t eat, you get hungry. When you forget your coat, you get cold. No piggy backing allowed. Adults piggy back […]
Avoid Pampering
Avoid Pampering Parents make a mistake when they pamper in the name of love. Pampering creates weakness because children develop the belief that others should do everything for them. One of the greatest gifts you can give your children is to allow them to develop the belief, “I am capable.” Children feel capable when they […]
Compliments Create a Positive Atmosphere in Homes and Classrooms
Compliments Create a Positive Atmosphere in Homes and Classrooms by Jane Nelsen Compliments and appreciations bring us closer together. Finding ways to compliment your children can be a very valuable parenting tool. So often we are focused on what our children have done wrong. This week focus on what your children have done right and […]
VALIDATE FEELINGS – A Positive Discipline Tool Card
VALIDATE FEELINGS – A Positive Discipline Tool Card Billy is sad because his friend doesn’t want to play with him. Susan is angry because she doesn’t want to pick up her toys. Tammie hates her baby brother and wants to hit him. Billy’s Mom tries to comfort him by saying, “Don’t feel sad, Billy. You […]
SCHEDULE SPECIAL TIME FOR CONNECTION\
SCHEDULE SPECIAL TIME FOR CONNECTION An excerpt from the book Positive Discipline by Dr. Jane Nelsen One of the most encouraging things parents can do for their children is to spend regularly scheduled special time with them. You may already spend lots of time with your children. However there is a difference between have to time, casual time, […]
Understand the Brain Using the Palm of Your Hand
Understand the Brain Using the Palm of Your Hand In their book, Parenting From the Inside Out (Tarcher/Penguin, 2004) Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell present an elegant and refreshingly (to us non-brain-scientists) understandable explanation of brain processes. In our Positive Discipline classes with both parents and teachers of children, this model remains one of the most useful and remembered tools. It’s called “Brain […]
Act Without Words – A Positive Discipline Tool Card
Act Without Words – A Positive Discipline Tool Card Diane promised she would never be like her friend, Sara, who was always yelling (often screaming) at her kids, “Don’t do that! Do this! I’m sick and tired or telling you!” On and on! It was difficult for Diane to be around Sara, and she felt […]
