Listen
Listen by Dr. Jane Nelsen When parents say, “My child doesn’t listen,” what they really mean is that my child doesn’t obey.” Parents give orders and children resist orders—just as their parent most likely would. If you are experiencing power-struggles with your children, take a look at your part in creating the power-struggle. Most kids […]
Small Steps
Small Steps As parents, we can of course do everything better and quicker than our children. But how does this help your child? You have to decide if perfection and expediency are more important than encouraging your child to develop a deep belief in his or her capability. Parents may not realize that doing too […]
Tone of Voice
Tone of Voice Have you noticed how terrible it feels to listen to another parent scold a child? Because you are not emotionally involved, you notice the shrinking posture of the child and empathize with the shame and discouragement he or she must be feeling.
Gemeinschaftsgefühl
Gemeinschaftsgefühl A Message from Dr. Jane Nelsen German Gemeinschaftsgefühl, from Gemeinschaft (“community, neighborship”) + Gefühl (“feeling”) (literally) “Community feeling” or “social interest”; used by Adlerian psychologists to describe the state of social connectedness and interest in the well-being of others that characterizes psychological health. During this challenging time, I would like to share what I learned from our Chinese friends. The government […]
How Do You Spend Time That Counts?
How Do You Spend Time That Counts? DURING THE TEEN years, when your children spend less and less time with you, it’s more important than ever to connect in ways that really count. Unfortunately, there are several conditions that make quality time especially difficult to achieve: busy schedules, teenagers’ preference to be with their friends, […]
Parenting Teens: How Do You Know When Your Child Becomes a Teen?
Parenting Teens: How Do You Know When Your Child Becomes a Teen? The following is an excerpt from the book, Positive Discipline for Teenagers by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott. You know you have a teenager when you hear yourself complaining, “She has no purpose. He won‘t help. She only cares about her friends. He is so self-centered. Her room […]
7 Tips for a Happy, Successful School Year
7 Tips for a Happy, Successful School Year For many children and their parents, returning to school is a joyful occasion—reconnecting with school friends and families, the excitement of purchasing school supplies and new clothes, the return to the comfort and normalcy of the school routine, and, of course, the gift of a little breathing […]
7 Ways Busy Parents Can Help Their Children Feel Special
7 Ways Busy Parents Can Help Their Children Feel Special Do you ever wonder, “Will my children suffer because they have a working parent? Will they be deprived?” The answer: That depends on what you believe and what you do. Many happy, successful people have been raised by working parents. It is not the circumstance […]
What Do You Want For Your Children?
What Do You Want For Your Children? When embarking upon the journey into Positive Discipline, it helps to have a destination in mind, and a road map to help you get there. Creating a list of characteristics and life skills you hope to have your children develop can serve as your road map. Imagine your […]
Listening Tool Card
Listening Tool Card From the Positive Discipline Parenting Tool Cards. Also available as an App for iPhone and Android. Many parents complain that their children don’t listen, yet few parents really listen to their children. Children will listen to you after they feel listened to.
