Logical Consequences
Logical Consequences by Jane Nelsen Logical consequences are different from Natural Consequences in that they require the intervention of an adult—or other children in a family meeting or a class meeting. It is important to decide what kind of consequence would create a helpful learning experience that might encourage children to choose responsible cooperation. For example, Linda […]
Problem Solving
Problem Solving by Jane Nelsen We can use daily challenges as opportunities to practice problem solving WITH our children. Children are great problem solvers when we give them the opportunity to brainstorm and come up with solutions. What a great life skill—to teach kids to focus on solutions when there is a problem. One summer we went […]
Control Your Behavior
Control Your Behavior by Dr. Jane Nelsen The Positive Discipline Tool Card of “Control Your Behavior” is sometimes easier said than done. Have you ever lost control of your behavior with your children? Fortunately we can use the parenting tool of Recovery from Mistakes when we lose control of our behavior. But it is always better if we can […]
Sibling Fights: Putting Kids in the Same Boat
Sibling Fights: Putting Kids in the Same Boat by Jane Nelsen If you can’t stand to stay out of your children’s fights, and decide to become involved, the most effective way is to put your children in the same boat. Do not take sides or try to decide who is at fault. Chances are you […]
Pay Attention
Pay Attention Are your children getting the impression that they are not important? All of these Positive Discipline Tool Cards are valuable, but some of them seem to resonate a little bit more with me. When I turned over this “Pay Attention” tool card it had a profound impact on me. Maybe that is because I see […]
Happy New Year 2022
Happy New Year 2022 Welcoming the new year is a great time to reflect on the past and plan for the future. This past year has been challenging. However, challenges can provide opportunities for learning — a key principle of Positive Discipline. A POSITIVE DISCIPLINE TOOL FOR 2022 When parents share a challenge they are […]
ASK FOR HELP
ASK FOR HELP by Jane Nelsen and Mary Nelsen Tamborski Excerpt from the Positive Discipline Parenting Tools Book A Positive Discipline Tool Card Telling children they are capable is not effective. They must have experiences where they feel capable. 1. Children feel capable, belonging, and significance when they contribute. 2. Look for every opportunity to say, “I […]
Helpful Hints For Empowering Vs. Enabling
Helpful Hints For Empowering Vs. Enabling An Excerpt from Positive Discipline for Teenagers by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott A friend asked me if Positive Discipline was a program to teach parents to manage their children. I said, “No, it is a program to help parents empower their children to manage themselves.” You may be vividly […]
Positive Time Out
Positive Time Out An excerpt from Positive Time-Out Many parents and teachers say “Go to your room (or to the corner) and think about what you did.” I’m amazed that many adults don’t know the answer when I ask, “Do you know why that is a ludicrous statement?” They come up with all kinds of responses […]
Steps For Winning Cooperation
Steps For Winning Cooperation An excerpt from Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen
