Routine Charts in China
Routine Charts in China I have the privilege of sharing another story from China, as told by Elly Zhen. Two years ago, when I started studying on Positive Discipline routine chart, I loved the idea. It took me two years to learn about the mistakes I made during my first attempt. I told my back-then 3.5-year-old […]
A Family Meeting in China
A Family Meeting in China A Family Meeting in China (shared with permission) I am Wendy Li, my Chinese name is Li Tao, I come from Chengdu. After learning Positive Discipline, I’ve become a better mom, and a better self. This picture shows my four-year-old daughter carefully taking notes during our first family meeting. Of cause […]
Positive Time-Out—You First
Positive Time-Out—You First Does this seem like a novel idea—for you to take some time-out instead of sending your children to time-out? We all know that example is the best teacher. Sachiko Jordan, a member of the Southern CA Positive Discipline Mentor group, shares how effective it was for her to use time-out for herself. […]
Avoiding Barriers
Avoiding Barriers Do you create any of the following barriers regularly with someone you love? Do you believe that if you worked at it you could use them less often? Let’s look at an example as a means of understanding the barriers and builders. Suppose four-year-old Linda becomes stuck when her tricycle wheel runs off […]
How Do You Motivate a Teen? Yes, It Is Possible!
How Do You Motivate a Teen? Yes, It Is Possible! When parents ask, “How do I motivate my teen?” they usually mean, “How do I get my teen to do what I want? How do I get her to have some balance in her life? How do I get him off the computer, get outside, […]
Another Hug Story – Podcast
Another Hug Story – Podcast Some of you may know that a Hug is one of my favorite Positive Discipline Tools. During this podcast you will understand why as I interview Beth Whitehead after she sent me the following success story. Dear Jane, As you may remember, I had a situation with my older daughter (3 […]
Connection Before Correction
Connection Before Correction Extensive research shows that we cannot influence children in a positive way until we create a connection with them. It is a brain (and heart) thing. Sometimes we have to stop dealing with the misbehavior and first heal the relationship. Connection creates a sense of safety and openness. Punishment, lecturing, nagging, scolding, […]
What Does Your Child Under Three Really “Know” About “No”?
What Does Your Child Under Three Really “Know” About “No”? An excerpt from the book Positive Discipline The First Three Years Children under the age of three do not understand “no” in the way most parents think they do. (And, a full understanding of “no” doesn’t occur magically when the child turns three. It is a […]
Parenting and Teenagers
Parenting and Teenagers An excerpt from the Positive Discipline for Teenagers book by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott. REMEMBER WHEN YOUR teen was a baby just learning to walk? What a milestone. You didn‘t want to miss any of it, and you were very supportive and encouraging. You would take her little hands in yours and start walking along […]
Child Discipline: To Punish or Not
Child Discipline: To Punish or Not What do you think of when you hear the word “discipline”? Most people think of punishment. I invite you to think a little deeper starting with the exploration of the long-term results of punishment. When children are punished they do not learn self-discipline. Punishment provides “external” motivation. Self-discipline requires […]
