Listening Tool Card
From the Positive Discipline Parenting Tool Cards. Also available as an App for iPhone and Android.
Many parents complain that their children don’t listen, yet few parents really listen to their children.
Children will listen to you after they feel listened to.
- Notice how often you interrupt, explain, defend your position, lecture, or give a command when your child tries to talk to you.
- Stop and just listen. It is okay to ask questions such as “Can you give me an example? Is there anything else?”
- When your child is finished, ask if he or she is willing to hear you.
- After sharing, focus on a solution that works for both of you.
