Connection is one of the first tools we present because it is foundational to every other tool. No one (parent or child) can be at his or her best until the feeling of connection is established.

Connection is the foundation of encouragement. Connection means letting children know you really care; that you are on their side. Children feel connected to you when they feel listened to, taken seriously, and are respectfully involved in problem solving so they feel a sense of power over their lives. They feel connected when you maintain respect for yourself as well as for them. It is important to say this so that adults don’t misunderstand and think that connection means pampering or giving in to disrespectful demands. Mutual respect is the key.