Question:

How should I handle a 4.5 year old who talks back to me?

Answer:

I decided to answer your question by sending you another excerpt from “Positive Discipline A-Z” on disrespect.
 
DISRESPECT

My child is often disrespectful to me. She talks back in a sassy manner, yells at me, and sometimes calls me names. The more I punish her, the worse it gets.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR CHILD, YOURSELF, AND THE NEEDS OF THE SITUATION:

Children learn from the examples around them. Too many parents expect their children to be respectful when they are not respectful to their children. Punishment is not respectful.