Setting Limits With Children

Question:

Do you have any articles or can you direct me to or any literature that deals specifically with the consequences for the developing child’s personality of parents who don’t set and/or enforce limits?

Thank you.

Answer:

Children certainly need limits. All of our books are based on research that demonstrates that HOW limits are set and enforced is the key to the developing personalities of children. Children do not develop healthy personalities (characteristics) when parents are too strict (controlling) or too lenient (permissive). All of the parenting skills we teach in our books are designed to help children develop strength in “The Significant Seven Perceptions and Skills” they need to become capable people. In other words, we suggest parenting methods that help children develop the life skills they need to become happy, successful, contributing members of society.